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Originally Posted by deliquesce
the part i'm sad/scared/angry about...  . i dont harbour a lot of anger towards the ppl who did what they did - i see them as products of their own short comings and i feel sorry for them. not in a self righteous way, just in a... it's a shame that that's the only way they know how to get what they want. pdoc disagrees with me really strongly on this point - he thinks that what happened was very calculated and purposeful, almost like they were cold blooded and evil and enjoyed doing what they did because it caused me pain. |
Couldn't it be both? They "enjoyed" what they were doing, AND they did it because they
needed to do it? They needed to revenge themselves on someone, and you were in the way?
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i will probably go with the "being nice" interpretation. and it probably won't cause any problems at all with this guy. but i guess if i do it often enough then i'm doomed to get burnt again. but i really have no idea how to filter these things through.
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Suspend judgement for a while? Don't assume either that he is "nice" or that he is a danger; wait until you find which is which? It could be either. You can be the detective who finds out which it is. Keep your own counsel; then you can decide what to do about it when you have the answer.