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Originally Posted by wonderingmary
I think fear of starting all over (or perhaps not so much fear but a sense of the enormity of the task) was part of what kept me from trying a different therapist when therapist #3 clearly was more counterproductive than helpful, and that I made a big mistake by staying with her for as long as I did (and repeated the same mistake with #4). But everyone is different. It is a decision we each have to make for ourselves. Regrettably, we can't know in advance if we're making the right decision, and we have to live with the consequences if we make the wrong decision. I wonder if your therapist could make some suggestions of therapists she thinks might be better for you, and you could try them, but come back to your current T if they don't work out? Although, that might not work out financially if you are using insurance.
Another possibility is to see if your T would be willing to try alliance and outcome evaluations. I think there are some available on the web at links from http://www.talkingcure.com/.
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Originally Posted by wonderingmary
I don't think I've ever felt comfortable with a therapist. I went into therapy assuming I wouldn't feel comfortable, since I couldn't imagine feeling comfortable with one. But the problems I encountered were more than just feeling comfortable.
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I think this says it all for me. I don't think my sessions are counter-productive, I just sometimes wonder if they ARE productive at all. Sometimes they are. But, besides being anxious before each session and just having a hard time opening up, there hasn't been anything she's necessarily said or done that has made me second guess this. I think I just need to put myself on the line more and see how it goes from there. It just is REALLY hard. I am so afraid she doesn't care.