Thank you both

I don't really think that I'm confused as to where we stand RIGHT now. He doesn't love me and as I said to him I get what he's saying but I don't understand why??
My screen name was from when we were in 'limbo' trying to save what we had.. actually don't know how to change it
I understand that we have broken up, emotionally I'm a mess but trying my best to work through it all. The fact that he wants to 'be there' to help me through it is just as confusing but I'm finding it hard to let go. I guess most of it is habit and I'm trying to break it.
I wont say that right now I don't want him to change his mind, natural feelings I think.
I'm still looking for answers to the big question, how does love just stop, he says there is no reason, nothing I did wrong blah blah that I'm wonderful and did everything he could possibly want/need.
I'm starting to think that I did TOO much, but I loved him and just wanted to make him happy.
I'm not sure if he will come to the conselling session, I still intend to go it alone. It will just make me a better person and hopefully I'll be able to find ME again.
I'm out seeing friends that I have hardly seen in 5 years which is nice, I try REALLY hard to be happy and not talk about him... so hard when your life has revolved around one person for such a long time.

I went to the solicitor's yesterday to start getting all of the house paperwork started and I had to ring him to ask a couple of questions. In the end I thought he was angry with me. Later he rang me to see how it went and to say he wasn't angry, just busy at work. I ended up sending him a txt message telling him that if he CHOSES to ring me I don't want to feel like S*** when I get off the phone. His tone of vioce was hurtful. I Don't expect him to be 'loving' but just nice. A little affection can still be there without me getting my hopes up.
He replied 'I didn't mean to sound that way. I rang to say I wasn't angry. I didn't want it to sound like that'
Which is okay... I reminded him that I'm a girl and to think of me as a girl not as an ex... girls are just different. (more a woman really LOL turning 30 on the 5th of december!)
It made me feel better to sort of 'have a go' at him about his tone of voice.... Finally feel like I'm doing something for me.

Long post.. probably round and round in circles again...

Once again a heart felt thank you for the support and advice.