Hmmm, I don't agree that she was backpedalling.
I think she meant the capacity to deal with hurt in the first place, and clarified that after I related how I experienced her saying this.

velcro, sometimes I think I share way too much negative stuff.
However, when we talk about my negative feelings/criticisms of her being representations of my continued distrust and insecurity about therapy, it fits. So it is helpful to talk about. When I wonder about her capabilities, I am wondering about therapy.