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Originally Posted by ECHOES
Bluemoon6,
I think the difference between "ability" and "capability" is meaningful. And she may have said "the capacity" but I heard it like you did. When we talked about it and she clarified, it was fine. She actually reassured me that I was correct in thinking that as a T, she is very strong (I say sturdy) and can handle anything I bring in with me. It is reassuring and comforting to me when something like this is clarified. Relieving too.
It is actually meaningful to me that she is spontaneous, real and in-the-moment. To be otherwise would kind of contribute to or reinforce my idealizing, I think. And, as it is my goal to be spontaneous, real, and in-the-moment with myself and others, it is good to see that it is not a flat terrain. Hills and valleys are real but don't have to be avoided. In fact, they can't be avoided if I want to experience a full rich life. 
Difficult sessions like these are so interesting because there is so much to explore and learn. |
I like it, too that she is spontaneous and in the moment. She is good, and, honestly, I have known the most brilliant of souls who were disorganized and messy. It certainly does not reflect on her ability to be an excellent therapist with you. But I can understand why you would interpret it that way, I had all kinds of things in my mind when I looked around dt's room for a shred of evidence about who she was. And then interpret these things, Im sure, very wrongly. I didnt dare ask her!
Im gald she clarified that for you. She cares and wants to be careful, for you. She wants you to be able to say whatever it is that you need to say, even if she was hurt in that moment. And for you to know she can deal with your feelings.
I agree also that this is where the learning is, in exploring how we hear things and how we come across to others. Good job!
