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Originally Posted by Sannah
And Moon, there is nothing wrong with having high expectations. Learning how not to be so disappointed and being patient with when you will accomplish them is key though
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Youre right- its good to expect that I will do this or that in therapy. Unfortunately, Pptience is not a strong point for me. I think it has something to do with living always in the present, as if there is not past or no future. I dont know if that makes any sense, but it is very true for me and always has been. Its as if the present is all there is.
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About your husband, your vantage point is very important and you will be able to see more of the overall picture as you keep working with T. I think that this is related to that space/trapped issue. When we are not healed we have a small vantage point and it traps us like crazy. As we examine our situation, learn, and understand ourselves and how and where we fit, and how others affect us, we expand our vantage point and we gain so much space. Being trapped becomes a thing from the past.
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When I read this, I was thinking about how my 2 yo sees the world. In an approapriate narcissistic way. But for me, its as if I am seeing my H from my vantage point and am trapped in that. Like a small child. It isnt that I am unable to see from his vantage point, but I need to have it (gently
) pointed out to me. In therapy I am learning, slowly, where I fit with him, how he affects me and what he brings up for me. Im working on that, but I do see how that gives me space to be who I am, as opposed to being trapped in childhood feelings.