perhaps a little more info hon. is this your child you are talking about? if you can maybe a little of what happened? I have dealt with the loss of a grandchild. no difference I don't think. she was mine. my sweet little baby girl. When I lost her I felt it was indirectly my fault. I think the healing didn't begin until I could accept her death and that took awhile. she was my world. I am here for you hon.