Thanks for your insight. I've been trying to keep myself busy with my kids and post-Thanksgiving shopping. I haven't heard anything from her sister and I've just decided to back off for right now. I really don't want to push myself on them though it is hard because I consider her family (my kids call her Aunt and she and sis were bridesmaids at my wedding earlier in the year along with being at every family bday party the last 3 years). It hurts that I do feel shut out but our other best friend dosen't even know that shes sick (I was told not to tell her or anyone). I had to lie to her earlier when she asked about them. I just keep thinking that if I get depressed or badly anxious it will be even worse for those around me and her when I can contact her. My husband is at work till tomorrow. Everything is a bit easier when hes around. Not knowing whats going on just sucks Thanks for listening.