I know what you mean. Depression lies to us and tells us we can't manage, are not good enough, or it just plain wipes out all our energy. You might also have social anxiety if social situations are particularly difficult. Depression and anxiety often come together. Emotions tend to love themselves and to make more of the same emotion and to tend to create action urges that perpetuate the emotional state.

That doesn't mean you have to let depression have that power over you. The most effective treatments for depression are the ones that get you doing something anyway. When you notice that you don't want to do anything and feel like withdrawing, the best thing you can do is challenge it and do something and even get involved in something social. Prove that tme emotion can't control you and you can be in charge. Anxiety, worry, and fear create the action urge to fight, flight, and freeze. They make us want to avoid. The way to beat it is to do the opposite. Approach instead. Do what you are afraid of doing. The more you practice these skills, the better it works and the easier it gets.