--------stay away from him until you can establish some of your own boundaries, ways of coping, etc. It takes time to re-establish a relationship especially after having a certain level of intimacy. Keep the faith, take care of yourself and hang in there![/quote]

Thank you. I was doing really well in myself today. I went shopping and it was great... then he rang. I gnored the call... he rang back and I should have answered but didn't... ended p wth text messages. Me sounding cold and him sounding polite... Now I feel so sad and confused again. He said he just wanted to know how much to cut the trees back (He's living in the house for the time being). I guess I was hoping for more than him ringing me for that..but the it is something he could have text instead of calling so why didn't he do that in the first place.

I am do want him back - ad have a few books ect on t. I have TW Jacksons the Maic of making up..... ANYONE out there read it? It seems to have good coping techniqes but the 3 days without contact is going to be hard as he contacts me when I'm trying to keep a level head...

Any advice would be REALLY appreciated.