I'll join you in the pity party. I have a wife that totally despises me- the claw marks and black and blue on my shoulder attests to it- she went off on me wednesday night and i had to put up smiles on Thanksgiving- this is a crazy thing to say, but life seems simpler without involving more people in it. About 7 years ago i made a selfish decision not to marry someone who truly loved me and it has pained me ever since.