KT- My husband is the same way, if I complain or talk about a difficulty with something, his reaction is to do something about it or he assumes I am doing something about it- like you with the job conversation. He doesnt understand why I would need to vent, he has even said, well, if there isnt anything you caqn do about it, why are you talking about it! When I tell him that I just need to talk about it and get out my feelings, he seems puzzled and says, Oh, OK. LOL!

But for sure, not all men are wired this way. I have known some who are not at all. FooZe, c'mon, some feedback here!

About pointing it out to myself that I am seeing my H from my vantage point. He surprises me, sometimes I wonder if my vantage point matters at all. It seems not to. I can get it SO wrong. He has been very lovey dovey lately, sending me lovely emails and e-cards I never would have suspected that he felt that way from the way he had been behaving the week before. He was stressed? It wasnt about me? It had nothing to do with me? My vantage point...again....a very wrong vantage point