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Old Nov 29, 2009, 02:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Fartraveler View Post
Not a multiple myself, but I did lots of "research" about my T. And probably found out things that I shouldn't have. However, she wasn't mad. She just said that it would be easier on me if we talked about it. Eventually I felt bad about knowing things about her that she didn't know I knew, so I gave her a folder with printouts of all the things that I had found. She wasn't angry though. She said I could ask her anything I wanted, although she wouldn't promise to answer.

-Far
Thanks for your reply. Don't think I'll give her a print out, but I'm glad that helped with you. I'm not sure how this will end up, but I just have to tell her at some point. I just want this therapeutic relationship to work. And being honest with her is the only thing I know that I can do on my end.

She's expressed hope that we will be able to work through disagreements because, evidently, our "working through" a recent appointment time miscommunication was a positive indication that we will be able to resolve problems between us. I hope so, but for some reason, "appointment time miscommunication" vs. "I may know more about you than you know about you" doesn't seem like a solid comparison.

I do feel better, though, after reading everyone's experience.

Thanks,
writing