I just wanted to let you know I read your thread. Though I am not in the same position as you are I really feel for you. It is hard enough with just hubby and my own two kids. I can't imagine dealing with what you are dealing with. I know that when things get bad with my hubby and me we get help from a marriage counseler. It is good to be able to have someone outside the situation who can look at the big picture and who is not vested in either position.
Take care,
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