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Elysium · Nov 30, 2009, 03:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Christina86

What should I be doing? Making a list of adjectives that describe me as a person? I'm supposed to keep them to positive qualities ONLY, but it's so hard to determine whether one quality is good or bad because some of them seemingly seem to be both at the same time.

(((((Christina)))))

So is that not okay? For a quality in you to be both good and bad? And is it really fair to judge yourself like this? What if we changed it to say endearing qualities and less endearing qualities?

I can understand where you are coming from because I do the same type of things to myself too. And it's always easier to give someone else advice than it is to take a dose of our own. But it's like I've learned in the past...it's a dialectic. There are nice qualities and not so nice qualities about each and every person.

This is a difficult exercise to do. Maybe, if you can allow yourself to focus on the more endearing qualities that you hold...at some point you could attempt to see how the less endearing qualities are part of what make you who you are and that even though they may be less endearing (according to whoever?), this doesn't necessarily make them bad qualities.

Good and bad is so black and white. You're not perfect...and that's okay. Live your life in color!!