My husband and I flew to Hawaii- just the two of us and had a private ceremony with the priest/justice of the peace, a camera person and a video. It was done in a backyard with a beautiful waterfall. We wore hawaiian garb had champagne and a hawaiian cake and wore leis. Then we honeymooned for ten days WITHOUT family influence or friends. This is your time. You owe no one a wedding. This way you won't have to worry about bridesmaid dresses, planning, or how you feel. One phone call is all that it takes. www.hawaiianweddings.com