I felt the same way when I got married 5 years ago. Remember, this is your wedding! If you are unhappy, then change it. My dress, shoes etc cost me less than $20.0 from a resale shop. The ceremony was at my inlaws and there were only about 10 people there. I was still nervous, but what new bride isn't? Looking back, I would not change a thing. The trip we took to the mountains to go camping is what I remember and it was perfect. do what feels right to you! and Good luck!