Friends, yesterday he actually talked to me in a very calm voice. He seemed happy. Well, that didn't last to long, he went to work and came home, and he wouldn't say anything to me. He was upset again. Lynn he does a little bit of both. As far as for me, I don't argue to much with him. When I do I say what I need to say, and when he starts really ragging I simply walk away. When he figures out that I'm not going to argue with him, he will start calming down. It's really hard telling whats going on inside him. He won't talk to me, not unless he needs to blame me for something. AAAAA your right some of us take it out on the ones we love. And John sorry, I need to rephrase to some men. I know not all men do this.