Seems to me, we "hurt the one's we love" could be of a number of reasons, few are actually intentional, though.

Convenience, is one. Although unintentional, our partner, or other close loved one, (residing in home), are the convenient source of receiving one's frustrations?

Whether intentional, or not, because of the emotional bond, we are more sensitive/receptive TO the actions of those we love?

What becomes familiar to us instills a regulated pattern that we oftentimes overlook without even realizing it. Those we live with are very much of that pattern, thus becoming merged into what is overlooked, or taken for granted.

Some do have the tendency to deliberately take advantage of the loved one's emotions to work in their favor, which is wrong, but sometimes very much a reality. And it's those behaviors which seem to hurt most.

We all know you don't mean ALL men, Michele. You've clarified. It's all good.

Just my cents worth....lol.

Shangrala