Hi, Sundance,
You have been on a roller coaster for several days now anyway, regarding your male friend who has returned to your area. That had to take a toll, and now you relate how your boyfriend has acted out angrily...though you say, not at you. That has to take an immense toll also!
No wonder you are suffering from stress and lack of sleep.
At this time in my life, after much stress and anxiety, I am only doing things I enjoy, even if that is only watching a DVD or crocheting, LOL. A little voice in the back of my head is saying..."You should be up WORKING, solving problems, etc." But I ignore it, because I am regaining my peace of mind.
Don't be too hard on yourself, dear Sundance. Give yourself a break...light some candles and take a bubble bath; read, walk, do Yoga, or just take a nap!
I know sleep can be thought of as an escape (I've certainly done more than my share lately!), but it also is a way for the mind and body to recover, waking up with more clarity of thinking.
Peaceful thoughts,
Seeker Patty