My nightmares ( the ones that bother me the most anyway ) usually involve me with my current family and my family of origin (including previous abusers) all in a house together with me - while the house is literally falling down around me. What distresses me the most is that no one else notices - and ignores all my efforts to shore things up. I have nightmares that are "scarier" and closer to flashbacks but for whatever reason - these other dreams bother me more for a longer period of time.