On this one hand, this sounds like misattunement, like not understanding what you needed in that moment. On the other hand, I could also see it as more deliberate. I'm pretty sure my T has done this before, there have been times where I have wanted reassurance about the connection between us (so essentially, me being focused on her response), and I feel my T is instead avoiding that topic and turning the attention back on me. It must be some kind of therapy technique (like them finding a balance between being supportive and keeping the client focused on introspection), but in the moment it can feel quite triggering, like your attempts to connect are being rebuffed/ignored.

I guess in moments like that, just try to remember that the therapy relationship is unique and has multiple purposes? That T's can show that they care in different ways than you would expect the other person to show it in RL relationships? Try to focus on what the therapy relationship can provide rather than what it can't? I know it's easier said than done, but that's what I might try. Good luck and I'm sorry to hear about the layoffs -- I'm sure that makes everything extra difficult to deal with.