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Dec 02, 2009, 03:22 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2007
Location: Florida
Posts: 1,611
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Michele, I'm not a guy but I hope you don't mind if I take a crack at those questions. 
1. It takes a very self controlled, and very mature human being to not lash out at those around us and blame them when we are in the middle of "upset." I manage it once in a while. Although as a woman I have a natural tendendacy to blame myself first. It's been my experience that many men do not have this problem.
2. It's also been my experience that when women look in the mirror, we see less attractive versions of ourselves. When men look in the mirror they see more attractive versions of themselves. I would do a reality check on him. Get him naked in front of a full length mirror, put the photo of the airbrushed, anorexic model next to him. Ask him if he really thinks he has chance??? I'd lose any guy who put how I look before who I am.
3. He either feels jealous and scared because deep down in his reality centered self he knows he's just as vulnerable as you are: you could find yourself happy to be without him or happy to be with someone else. OR he feels you are inconveniencing him in some way and wants you to be totally centered on him and his needs at all times.
4. Same answer as #3.
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