Hi Psyched,

Yes, like Shez said, big questions but good......it is in the asking and seeking that we heal eventually....

I was told 16 years ago when dx, that I was to have BPD for life. At the time it was a death sentence in my mind.....only becuase I felt SO ill and was in and out of hopsital.....

Since my dx, I have overcome considerably......and this is where our core personalities and strenghts come to the fore......we exist outside our PD's, we exist outside all disorder........our core values (even if we are not aware of them) are what determine out future in terms of how we grow, how we change, what we believe. All people go through his process, whether they have good or bad outcomes.....

So, yes, I believe it is a combination of nature/nurture......how much is each, I have no idea. Some of us are more sensitive than others, and some of us has such different upbringings. It is in the breaking of those past chains of thinking and behaving that we truly overcome.

I was recently dx with Aspergers.......it is in my family. However, it may have been a different outcome for me if I had been treated properly as a chlid. I may not struggle so much with myself now......I may have better self-esteem to deal with all the issues that Aspergers throws up......but I go to therapy and most important of all, I try to love myself anyway.....

Would I take it all back if I could? 16 years ago, a resounding yes......Now, not in a million years......for it is the BPD that participated in what I am today.....that taught me things about myself that I would never have gained without the tremendous struggle of BPD and the great love/hate story between my BPD self and my Michah self......we live quite well together now

Take care babe.......yes it is in the brain, it is in the spirit, it is in our humanity........and the greatest gift is to love it anyway.......

Hugs

Michah