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Originally Posted by Michah
Hi JM,
I am merely assuming......and honestly wondering if you are speaking of a personal experience?
I am right there with you.......I have experienced both good and bad men.....and women.......intimately.
My fiance is wonderful.......I attracted him to me due to the attraction sent out.
When I worked out what I didn't want, I sent out what I DID want......and in accordance with "what goes around, comes around".....it did.
In my desperate experience of times of hurt and betrayal, there is one constant factor.......I get what I think. If I thought I didn't deserve to be treated properly, thats what I got......and it perpetuated the cycle of self-sabotaging and self-flagellating behaviour........it is in the liking and belief of self that others seem to as well.....
Therapy, time and lessons learnt got me to the platform I am now at......it has been painful, agonising and terrifying.......and some days it still is.....
But believe you deserve better, that you are precious and that others deserve YOU.......rather than the other way around.....and you shall receive.....
Cliched? I know.......but for some strange and incomprehensible reason it seems true......
Take good , good care babe......love thyself.......
In stillness,
Michah
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My bf right now is having some issues. He just started talking to me again. I still have no idea what he was upset about. I have already brought up therapy in the past, so I'm going to do it again in a few days. I don't want to seem to pushy with him. Alot of the questions I have asked is not just solely on my bf. I have seen what my ex has done, and I have seen other men do it. I think that there are some men who try to be really sneaky. In my 20's I use to go out with my friends. I seen men go in to the clubs with wifves, gf's etc. Well one time my friend and I got up to dance, and she was like pat the guys on the butt, but don't let the women see you. Well we were both doing that, and not one of those guys said anything to us. I have seen some men flirt with other women when they are with their signifant other behind their back. Really I'm just trying to figure out the logic behind all of these questions. It's just like when your watching a movie with your guy (meaning some guys) and there is some female nudity in it. Well I don't (in my case) get all upset when my bf see's some boobs, but if it is reversed it's like it's a double standard. I have had some of my friends tell me the same thing.
The blaming goes with both sex's (in some, not all) When I asked the question about being blamed, thats what it feels like. I just wish that in my case we could talk about the anger instead of blowing up about it.
My bf doesn't really say to much about going out with certain people. When I was still talking to my sister, her husband would throw a fit if we went and lunch together. I have had some friends like this. When I was married to my ex it was the same way.
