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Originally Posted by kacey321
...and as tempted as I have been to call his house when hes at work and chew her out and tell her to find someone else who's not married I don't....sometimes feel sorry for her ..."the wife is still here,even if not in sight or his heart,legally still his wife and if anything happened she would be out in the cold unfortunately as I saw this happen to someone like her who lived with a man for 15 years who was married still and the GF left homeless when he had a massive heart attack ...the invisible wife but still legally the wife got everything ..
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Hi Kay,
Well I was joining you with the tears last night about my own situation. Not any where like yours . but still sad.
I feel this hurt in the pit of my stomach reading your post. I think its a mixed sadness. What you have shared is not something I have ever thought about but I think its good for any woman to know who may entertain moving in or dating a married man .
Your wanting to call the other woman is not an uncomon response to feelings . Any woman in her smart mind would never get herself in between such a tenuious situation . Shes not too wise . It also sounds a bit volitiale on his part. .
I really don't know what its like to share expenses in a relationship . I think people who do it sucessfully have a better chance at a relationship lasting. It does look like your husband does care and provide for your sons. I'm thinking how I was thrown out of my home with nothing but a bicycle . no insurace and only 18 years old, My parents did not care or help me with the important things in life .
You care about his finances. So your both thinking about each other. I did read a few of your back posts. Thats why I mentioned it sounds like he is giving you double messages. I hope your still not having sex with him.
A woman I know from one of my work places has been legally married but separated for 15 years!!!!!!! Insurance and property stalemate . And she doesn't date.
These kind of things can go on along time. I know from the estate with my brother . 13 years it lasted ... along time to hold out . I gave in and let him have the money my parents gave him for his house that I encouraged him to get. instead of renting .
I was the chearleader in the family . But I really needed a bit back and they didn't know how.
You know what ? I've heard we can't take a u-hal with us when we leave here. I keep forgeting this simple truth. and that we are not going to be here forever .
Day two for me . and holding.
Im glad you felt heard Kay. And it sounds like your taking care of yourself and your sons. Maybe this woman will wise up on her own. I feel sorry for her as well. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
Patricia