Uhh, this isn't professional. Does your T work out of her house or what? My T thinks that for ethical AND safety reasons, it is never a good idea to practice in your house.

Even if your T does hold her practice in her house, I can't see how you would be able to see her washing dishes. How did this happen if the appointment wasn't in the kitchen?

I'm confused again...

On another note, you have nothing whatsoever to lose by being direct with your T about how you feel like she is treating you coldly. I think no matter what her self justifications are, this type of behavior toward a patient is absolutely untherapeutic.