Gee Tishie,

Your description of this person sounds just exactly like the situation between my husband & me....he was very NICE also but that is why I am now living 2200 miles away from him...lol.

I think Sabby really said it well though......if this trigger is something easy to change, then it would be wonderful to work it out with them. If it's something that is difficult or impossible for them to change, then limiting your around them time or not being around them at all seems to be the best answer.

I had some boundary issues with my best friend earlier this year....the wonderful thing is that we worked things through & the friendship is better than ever.

It really depends on the relationship & the value you put on it verses the tolerance required to deal with it.

Wishing you the best outcome,
Debbie