Rapunzel,
This sort of sounds like what I am going through right now. I get to a point where I feel that no matter what my mother says I think I can deal with that. But a voice in my head disagrees and then I feel like I have been slam-dunked by not only my mother, but myself as well. I have tried hard to turn off these thoughts but end up with a deep heavyness in my chest and a real deep depression over it. Maybe your ideas on this subject would work for me.
I find all this info you all have provided very interesting.