I'm not sure I have a system either. I'm still really new to this and don't even know whether I fit into a "diagnosis". But my counsellor says how I am feeling is not surprising and was a way for me to cope when things were hard.
There are 3 Carolines. The adult one is the one who is out most of the time. She is a teacher and mum, and can encourage and help others.
When I am stressed or scared or under more pressure than Big Caroline can handle, Little Caroline takes over. she is very scared, about 9 I guess. She is very critical of herself. She is the one who looks after other people and gets very worried if things are not right. She sees it as her job to make everyone else feel OK. Whe is lonely a lot of the time because she is scared to get too close to people. She thinks if she does they won't like her.
Then there is a littler one, who at the moment wwe don't have a name for. She is that baby and is about 4 or 5 I think. She doesn't come out much, but when she does she is a happy, carefree person who likes to be silly and have fun. She has the confidence the other two don't have. My counsellor wants me to encourage her to come out more.