Hi, I am in my 30s and have been engaged for 14 months. Living together for 2 years. We soon after the proposal stared to look for a wedding venue and I got my dress. After 4 months, he said that our relationship is so bad that he cant get married like this. He accused me of all sorts but said that he does not want to split up. We went for counselling for 4 months, which helped. But then when I brought up the wedding again - he would not talk about it at all. I then decided that if he wont talk about the wedding then there is not much point in talking about anything else. We spent 2 months more or less not talking. Then I went away for a month where I told him not to contact me unless its about a date. He emailed and texted me. When we eventually talked he said he would do anything as he cant live without me. I came back and we started discussing our married life together and the wedding and went to see a venue etc. 3 days later he said he is not prepared to set a date as our relationship is not good and he wants at least 2 months of normality together. He is divorced with an ex that is conniving and manipulative and children who live with her. I am at my wits end. I do not know what to do. It seems that he is terrified of marriage and as soon as it becomes real he cant do it and looks for faults. He seems happy to have a child together but wont set a wedding date. I dont know what to do anymore as we both love one another but I need marriage and he does everything to avoid it. I also feel so hurt for him promising twice and letting me down. Your thoughts anyone?? I am new to this site. x