Hi all,

yep we had sex on the 21st.. now know he had taken her out to dinner the 17th.. She doesn't know - i asked him and he said he wasn't going to tell her. Seems to me that he has become a very good liar... Never used to be.

So from my point of view they stated 'really' seeing each other on or around the 16th... Then am assuming she went up to the house last week as well... I was doing the no contact thing so didn't go up there really.
Think she has only stayed at the house this week... Monday night onwards.

Before that think it was more an emotional affair of sorts - he stated working closely with her... started to become attached and as he felt more for her he felt less for me.... He says that's not true but it has to be something like that.

Strangely at least I have an answer/result which helps me move forward a bit.

It was a text message that he sent t her saying 'I love you baby'... that got me. When I asked if he loved her he said I care about her... I said do you love her and he said 'yes'.

I asked if he actually loved me for the past 5 years and he said Yes he did... but what he feels for her is 'different'.... Am putting it down to early stages of love/lust....butterflies in the tummy etc.. Who knows maybe he has found his soul mate and it was just meant to be...

I think he actually believes that he does love her, but trully I don't think you can go 5 years with someone and then just fall 'in love' with someone else... At least I never did. I thought I could and tried it, it was a re-bound relationship that did last 2 years through the thought of not wanting to be alone...

Any opinions out there?

Yes if he was seeing her and had sex with me I am shocked and disappointed with him... it was a side of him that didn't think existed to be honest.

He satill says he wants to be friends... right now I hate all of the lies he told me for the past two weeks so it seems impossible. Its like I just don't know him anymore. Who knows what the future holds... Once he moves out of the house we can see what happens.