I haven't read all the posts - but yours brings to mind the social environment we all live in. the images we all digest about what "is ok/isn't ok" what "is acceptable'. there's not a single person living in the technological age that is not affected by out society's standards; fashion, agism, beauty, etc etc... it is amazing that anyone can feel validated in our public environment and I doubt that there are lage percentages of women who do not feel that same self-hate. It eats at the Western world.
There's my 2 cents =)