I'm so sorry you're hurting - all I can say is I know exactly how you feel. At least now you have an answer to the ambiguous statement of "I'm not in love with you anymore". I can never understand why a woman would want a man who's married. I would NEVER want to hurt my own gender like that. Pardon me for saying this, but I hate women/men like this. It's going to be rough going for you for a while and you're going to feel very angry sometimes- you might even feel HATE. I know I did. I suggest you go into therapy on your own and start the healing process. I don't believe their relationship will last long because rebound relationships never do. He needs to heal his own dysfunction before he can meet someone else. If he cheated on you, he'll cheat on her or she will. I do understand your statement of loving who he used to be. I wish you all the strength in this difficult time