2) I worked on my issues right in the moment (at a later date, after some unloading therapy - BlueMoon, it sounds like a great idea to notice what triggered you and then discuss this stuff with your therapist!). For me, I noticed my self worth dropping while in conversation with other women at parties (it never dropped with men. My dad wasn't ever a problem for me, my mom was). So what I did was when I would notice this happening I would tell myself "This woman isn't your mom. Your mom isn't here. This woman thinks nothing bad about you." This really worked for me. I was able to replace those ingrained reactions with new, healthy thoughts.