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Originally Posted by BlueMoon6
Hmmm....interesting. I also feel less worthy with women than men, but I SOOOO did not think of them as my mother. I have been acting out of the messages given to me by my mother/father, but I dont think that I see the other women as my mother. But, maybe I do. I'll have to give that some thought.........
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it doesn't have to be that strong... for me it's a more "woman" vs "man" thing. it's how we learn to divide up the world as kids, and of course our parents are the ones we usually learn the most from.
i find this discussion interesting, since i don't drink. i actually feel like more of an a*s when i drink because i don't have the level of control that i usually do (nb: i'm the world's cheapest drunk. i'm tipsy at 1/2 glass, buzzed for hours afterwards on one). so i tend to avoid it unless i really know the people that i'm with, because they will know it's not my "usual self". not that my 1-glass self is bad or anything, but just... i don't like being that person? i know lots more people like me when i'm a bit tipsy, because i tend to become belle of the ball, but it's like putting on a facade and i don't like acting that way.
control is so important to me so i find it interesting that so many people want to let go of that. i enjoy wine for the taste, but i think the last time i had anything more than 1/2 a glass would have been when i was 21 or 22. i'll be travelling with friends over xmas/ny and i know we will drink quite a bit then, but i've also known them both since i was 12, so i know it'll be ok.