Beth,

I guess I am wondering if your Dad is still living with you? I don't mean to get nosey...sorry. I know when someone else is in our home, the stress level goes so high that everyone gets on each others case because our routine is all off balance. Sometimes even the little things become big.

I hope you can work things out with your husband. You can't always be what he wants & you can't kick yourself or harm yourself because of it. If you are trying the best you can to work on the issues that are the problem, he should be able to see the changes & want to work with you from there. The fact that he is going to a T, is a good sign.

I tend to agree with Sept however. It may be best if things don't improve that a separation period for you to figure things out for yourself without him being around to put such pressure on you.

It is important for you to realize what you are willing to take from a relationship. If it is harming you, even if you really love the person, you need to think about how they feel about you if they are treating you this way. I know it is much harder to act on than to say....that is probably why I have stayed in my pathetic marriage for 30 years. There is a time when we need to realize what is best for us & what we need to continue surviving without being harmed (by the other person or ourselves). Looking back & reading some of my journaling, I now realize that I was feeling suicidal because of the way my husband was. I was depressed because I no longer had my career to take me away from the marriage & I wanted out any way I could get there. You need to think about what is at the bottom of "those" feelings that are now returning into your life, & figure out what is the best for you.

Please take care of yourself above all else,
Debbie