As an older parent, I can definitely say, I would not tolerate that behavior whether ADD, ADHD, anxiety attacks, or what ever was involved. You never said what you got into a fight over with your mother about either that caused her to "hit" you in the first place. There are things as parents that we WILL not put up with no matter how it is excused away. What is sounds like to me is a childish tantrum in reaction to your mother expecting better behaviour out of you than what you did or said.

What is this "some respect" for your parents? I can guarentee you that the comment "children will be children" is just as inappropriate as the comment "parents will be parents". It is our responsibility to train our children to respect authority & to behave in an acceptable manor in society. Just because a child doesn't like being taught these important lessons, doesn't give a child the RIGHT to act like that.

It may be your opinion that she had no reason to "snap" at you, but you may not be understanding what she was trying to get across to you either before it happened. Chosing to act in a way that caused your mother to react the way she did should make you stop & think about the whole picture. The term "triggered" is also inappropriate unless there is PTSD involved which from previous posts seems unlikely. It sounds more like "acting out" against authority than a trigger.

There is also something for you to think about is to put yourself into the parent role & think about the situation in terms of you being the parent & having a child that acted like you did. Think about it honestly & whether you would want a child what was acting like that & how you would handle it.

I don't even allow my dogs or horses to behave in such a manor. The other day when I was taking my 10 month old filly for a walk being led by my horse, she said "no way" & flung herself onto the ground. Do you think it is smart to allow an animal that will soon weigh 1500 lbs to act like that? She has to learn acceptable behavior & a tantrum sure isn't acceptable (horse nor child). I got off my horse, got her up, & jerked on the stud chain a few times to let her know it was "completely unacceptable". She walked with me & tried a little acting out again & again, I let her know it wasn't acceptable. After only a few minutes, we were walking around without any scene. The praises flowed when she was good (no treats, just verbal praise). I then got up on my other horse & I was able to walk her all around the ranch. The correlation is that misbehavior meets with disaproval until the appropriate behavior is acheived. At that time there must be recognition of the good & praise. But until the appropriate behavior is acheived, there will be consequences. This is all part of training, whether animals or people.

I can't imagine you growing up in my place where parents were "sir" & "Maam" & there was no talking back let alone tantrums. Punishment was a spanking & hopefully a month of being grounded for something like you described. There was no such thing as "some" respect with any adult. I slacked off with my daughter but if she ever had tried something like that, I would have felt like I had to get tougher & she would have had more rules like I had growing up.

Think about the whole picture & put yourself into your mothers place & how you would want a child of yours acting.

Debbie