I understand. There are different kinds of love. I'm confused in my relationship because I felt like a child for most of my life, and feel like now it is time to grow up and learn to be an individual person and think and feel for myself and figure out if I can take care of myself. My husband has been my family for nearly 20 years. How do you not love someone who is so much a part of your life, especially if you have been dependent and childlike, as I have, and they have been there for you. But it isn't the same as being "in love." Maybe being "in love" is a myth for most people, anyway. But it would be nice to know if attraction and romantic love could be out there somewhere, wouldn't it? Or independence?