A friend recently asked me my opinion on a potential (?) relationship. She's in her 40's oldest child is 22ish and a 20 yr old has started showing interest in her. At first I just thought she was looking for ideas on how to turn this very nice young man down without hurting his feelings, later I realized she's seriously concidering dating him.

As I said, he's 20 which is definately an adult, but so is her youngest child. In fact he dated her daughter's best friend for a couple years in high school.

I haven't really been able to share my opinion with her (shocking I know) because I cannot seperated the fact that I'm a couple years younger than she is and he's younger than my own children. It seems preditory to me. I told her to discuss it with her kids instead. She did not like this answer, stating that they're adults and so is she and she has to live her life for herself at some point.

So what do you think, just my own issues? If she was 50s and he 30s, somehow it wouldn't seem to be quite so icky.