Hi AAA,
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I told her to discuss it with her kids instead. She did not like this answer, stating that they're adults and so is she and she has to live her life for herself at some point.
So what do you think, just my own issues? If she was 50s and he 30s, somehow it wouldn't seem to be quite so icky.
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Yes this is just your own issues. I think you were being evasive in bieng straightforward with your friend by saying why don't you ask your children?
I wouldn't like that answer either.
Better to just comeone out and say I think its icky . Its your shame you putting onto her ..
Growing up I had a VERY close neighbor with whos daughter I was best friends with for many years . We parted closeness when she went into highschool bieng two years older than myself. The mother of my friend just sent me a family portraight in the mail two weeks ago.
She was married to a man for maybe five or so years, her own age , after she graduated from colledge. It ended in divorse . She had no children.
She is a school teacher and she began dating one of her students who was only 18. She was over thirty I believe. They got married and have 4 beautiful children. all girls.
And she was a highschool cheerleader, one of the most beautiful girls in highschool.
I know nothing about thier day to day dynamics. A couple of her girls are now married with children. Looks like the first husband was with holding children from her. She is now around 56 and looks 40 and they are still together. My friend comes from a hard working store owning family .
I having been in one relationship where the man was 11 years my senior . That was enough for me to see I wouldn't want a younger man .
But lately I have to tell you . There is a younger man who is SO sweet and intrested in what I do . Its refreshing. I just enjoy his attentiveness for what it is I would never date him ever if he asked . Its just nice knowing there are men out there that are like that. He must think Im alot younger than I am. And right now hes the only man intrested at all.
I can see WHY an older woman would want to be with a younger caring man who is not tarnished and hardened and angry and mistrustful.
Doesn't anyone want that.? And when your fourty . or fifty .Most of the men you meet have already been married may have children and are not always full of energy ,enthusiasum, .or appreciation , for all a woman can do .. Who wouldn't be drawn to that .if thats what this young man is capable of ? we are all souls and some beautiful mature old souls are i very young bodies.
I don't get inbetween anyones choice in who they are with just in how they treat one another.
Patricia