As a parent I think I get it. I would never degrade or hummiliate my kids intentionally but I did try a soanking a few times, You see I am pushed back into an age old question about, was it my fault? Did it really happen? Am I a bad girl? Am I unlovable? Am I dirty? It took me ages to learn to say the words about what had happened and now I have my entire world thrown into doubt because i can't undestand spanking a child vs. torturing them.