I've learned in therapy that Borderline's often struggle w/ feelings of invalidation, b/c we were told that our opinions, thoughts & feelings were "wrong" or "imagined" during childhood. A lot of times, our thinking makes us feel "crazy", b/c we were made to distrust our own judgments (esp. by parents & family members who abused us, bullied us, turned situations around to save themselves). This is what makes confrontation so scary. And it's no wonder that we have trouble establishing boundaries w/ others, b/c they were trampled on all over us by our families, so we never learned the healthy way to set them, which made us feel like we weren't deserving enough to stand up for ourselves or like we were wrong to do it. I recently read a compilation of traits which a member posted for us, & learned that, oftentimes, a Borderline will go out of their way to please people, esp. on the job, only to internalize their resentment when they feel unappreciated, & suddenly storm out & quit. I've done that many times. It isn't surprising that some of us do that, after being raised in such dysfunctional environments. (((Opheliasorrow))) I can certainly relate to your reactions, & you aren't crazy.