Hi, Grace,
People here really tell it like it is! You definitely deserve better consideration of your feelings, no matter how much he proclaims he loves you. He has put you thru hell in this and I agree with the other opinions here that you can't be part of a triangle. I know you love him, but his actions have caused you intense pain.
I'm glad you're seeing a counselor, and I am impressed with your clarity of thinking, despite how hurt you are feeling. You are a strong woman, and he is the loser in this situation.
Loving thoughts,
Seeker "Patty"