eskie yes I agree with you...it does depend on what side you are on most of the time. for me my last divorce was very hard for me but I am the one that left. I left my lover my best friend. He couldn't stop his drinking and I couldn't take seeing him kill himself any longer. He died 3 yrs ago to alcoholism. I grieved over the divorce and then again when he died. but the others I simply walked away so I have really been on both ends of that.