When I was in my early 20s I had a "thing" with a much older woman. She was good for me and I think I was good for her. No one got hurt, and she understood me so well. I certainly have no regrets!

Why on earth would she check with her children about her love life? That's a bit Oedipal, isn't it? I agree with her completely; it's her life. If her grown kids have a problem, too bad. If her children were still kids, however, it would be a different story.

An older woman/younger man romance can be extremely fulfilling. No one has to get hurt. Older women can often take care of themselves and enjoy the affair for what it is, I think. At least that was my experience, a very positive one in my own growth.