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and never wanted to really admit it--it requires self-discipline and responsibility. It's a lot easier to say "it's out of my control. I can't do anything about it." That way, I'm shifting the blame; it's not my fault. But binging is a choice.
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I have to agree with Bill. You do express your self well and your a clear thinker .
the self discipline . this coud be a topic all in itself . here is where a divison exists between say a drug addict and alchoholic. and a food addict.
with food everyone assumes one "should not have any problems eating "
How can a person be an true addict like other substance ones. .
yet an alchoholic is told they can never pick up a drink because they loose all self control . the drug takes over .
true sugar will probably not be giving me the shakes like a hard core drug or alchoholic /addict .
But for me It became a cycle of addiction . one that was very pleasurable .and to the point I could not stop., and It came first before anything ,
for me the adiction cycle takes over once it hits my toungue and then the brain chemicals kick in .also the well worn pathway of my old patern can be triggered and the thought to have more always arises . I leran to not hear it or engage it.
Eating should not have to be so hard . lets just say addiction has concequences that are long lastiing . and it does become a choice of knowing myself and being honest and not letting others tell me different .
LIke your mother may not beable to Understand your problem because she does not have it .
In the same way Im not sure you understand the finacial ramifications of your father having a Stroke.
If your family has no retirement or other income all your mother has Is his dissability and her income . And health bills are very costly even with insurance.
probably most of us don't see eye to eye on many things .
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I used to give my mom grocery lists for "health foods" when I was younger. Now, most of our food is from the food bank, so it's pre-packaged rice, pasta, caned foods, and bread.
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this is a problem . And not the healthiest . Its also a problem in hospitals and other institutions. we have freedom and one has the right to eat healthily.
unfortunately when giving to food drives its always canned and processed foods .
it takes alot of courage to do the right thing food wise . Plus its not as pleasurable .
this morning Id rather have a cup of JOE I'm so tired of Green tea.
I really am!!!!!!LOL!!!!!
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there's some small things I can do to try to have myself and my entire family eat a little healthier...
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Good for you what are those ? it doesn't sound like an easy task to me..
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. I don't know if he'll take it seriously because he's so different now (personality-wise, anyways).
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its good you know this or someone told you.
My father had a stroke and no one acknowdeged the long term effects . His was unabe to talk for some time but regained his speach . MY father lived for ten years after his major stroke . it left him paralized on his left side . I could share very littel with my father after his stroke . Didn't do much of that befor hand anyway,
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And my mom... I don't think she'd believe me at all. She thinks I'm the "healthy" one. And if she did take it seriously, she'd overreact. Also, she's a blabber-mouth, and I don't feel comfortable talking to her about anything. I love my mom, but when I had a depressive episode some years back, she told her friend about it, who confronted me about it... She also told others when my brother was hospitalized for Schizophrenia. When my dad was in the hospital after his stroke, she presented our family as some charity-case, which I thought was pretty embarrassing... We really don't see eye-to-eye on a lot of things--she doesn't mind begging for money and spends impulsively whereas I prefer being self-sufficient and tend to be "tightfisted"; it's more of a personality thing, really.
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MY mother was very tight fisted. so was my father. Its a learned survival technique .
Your mother may be needing support and thats why she is sharing . just like you are now . I can see why you may not want to tel your mother especially if she is internet savey .I am learnig Google flags many things . type in key words and wala up pops your post and in what forum .
Your concerns are valid . Maybe if she did read this it might be a good thing . talking about ones daughters and sons with out asking them first if this is okay is a viloation of ones boundries.
its gossip . unfortunately HIPAA does not extend into the family unit.
Patricia