I agree, Kathy. Of course we all want what you and your husband have. It sounds like you did it just right.

I grew up simultaneously in an ultra-liberal family and an ultra-repressive Southern environment, and it made me a bit skitzy and radical I'm afraid. If I perceive Society (or anyone speaking for "it") trying to "should on me" I get outraged and rebellious. Suddenly I'm a 9yr old again.

I misunderstood you and I apologize! I feel sorry for that young girl too -- Mike