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I think being "in love" is a temporary situation that comes and goes. I'll have times when I feel totally in love with my husband (of almost 13 years) and other times when I have to admit I can barely stand the way he breathes! But there is alot more good feeling than bad feeling.
My husband burps and farts alot too. Matter of fact I've had 3 husbands, they ALL burped and farted alot. I used to be all hung up about it when I was younger. (Some how I got the message from my family of origin that girls did not sweat, fart, burp or poop!!!!) By the time I was in my 40's and married my 3rd husband, I was able to turn around my thinking. If he was free to be him, I was free to be me. Now, I still am more discreet more often than he is about bodily functions. But it's nice to have the freedom from judgement (mostly my own I now realize) when I'm having a particularly gassy day.
Also he is the first person in my life to love me (pretty much) unconditionally, to be loyal, to enjoy spending almost all his time with me - except for a rough patch or two he's pretty much always been here for me. He is the one and only person in my life who has been a rock. And that is worth more than any of his imperfections. Who among us is perfect?
Also as a young woman I had the experience of great torrid, romantic, "in love" relationships. They all cooled and all those men turned out to be imperfect too, in much more important way than being too gassy. Now that I'm older, I'm glad I had those experiences because I do not feel like I am missing out on anything. I had some great sex that I mistook for "romance and love."
My husband and our relationship is not what most young people think of - or much of our sex crazed culture think of - as "the love of a lifetime." But his is MY love of a lifetime. He is not handsome, I think, in most people's eyes. He burps and farts too much. He has diabetes that is slowly starting to affect our sex life. (As my own medication for depression has affected our sex life.) But all the things he IS are much more important. He is kind to me, patient, loyal, soft spoken, has a great sense of humor, intelligent, and he just plain loves me in any way, shape or form.
I guess we all have to decide what are the more important things we want in a mate, short and long term. Then go for it. I highly recommend (safely) sowing your wild oats when you are young. But when and if you start looking for "the love of your life" give it a good long and very practical think.
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