Hi,

I've been dating my girlfriend for 5-6 months now and she is very sarcastic and on the whole hypocritical. Either she is too dumb to notice it or is really mean and selfish. She hurts me a lot with things she says and does and only seems to ever think of herself. I am very quiet and shy, she knew this when we first started dating and it didn't really seem to bother her then, but she has been at me to communicate with her and I am unhappy with the way things are so I try to talk to her but then she doesn't even listen to anything I say. I told her why I was unhappy and giving examples and then she just turned everything around that I said. She told me that she thinks about what she says before she says it. If that is true then she is really mean. She knows that I have been sexually abused when I was younger, then she told me that I've got to stop living in the past. At the time she said that comment to me I didn't really think about it because I was already upset about other things she said and only later it sank into me. I would never say that to anyone, if she had any clue as to how I am feeling then she should never had said that along with the other things. She made me even more upset than I already was and I left crying. I had to walk away from her. I don't like her tone or attitude. I wish she would actually think before she speaks and stop being so sarcastic, almost everything she says is with sarcasm. Talking is very difficult for me and especially so when the person in question, who on one hand badgers me to talk and then, doesn't even listen to me when I try. I feel I can't win in any situation with her. She complained that we haven't had sex for 2 months. I stopped having sex with her because everytime we did, she would complain about something she didn't like so it became restrictive and I was only left with 2 options during sex and then the last time we did have sex, she told me we only had sex when I wanted it and not when she wanted it. So, what do I do? I stop, I don't ask her for sex or make any moves. 2 months go by while I wait for her to ask me for sex or at the very least let me know and she does nothing. Then she complains we don't have sex. ???? She makes things very difficult for me. I told her why I haven't had sex with her and I've been waiting on her then she comes out with that she was brought up not to be like that??? She's not to ask for sex??? Then she goes on to say she doesn't want to do anything because she knows I had been abused. That makes the comment about me not living in the past hypocritical. I've not to live in the past but it's alright for her to use my past as an excuse for not asking me for sex. Other than it just being a really stupid thing to say in general as well. Did she think about that one before she said it?? How do you get through to someone that has their own blinkered view of the world and denies or turns everything around that you say?